The Myth of “Toxic Masculinity” and the Importance of Strong Men in America
RJ Hamster
The Myth of Toxic Masculinity
Dear Reader,
I hope this email finds you well. I wanted to take a moment to share some thoughts on an increasingly common term—“toxic masculinity”—and why I believe it’s not only misleading but harmful to the future of our society. At its core, the phrase is designed to attack masculinity itself, not just unhealthy behaviors.
First, let’s break down the idea of “toxic masculinity.” The term is often used to describe behaviors like aggression, dominance, or emotional stoicism.
However, these traits aren’t inherently bad—they’re neutral. The context in which they’re applied matters more than the traits themselves. For example, aggression can be destructive when misused, but it is a necessary quality in defense, protection, and competition. Similarly, emotional restraint is crucial in high-pressure situations, such as in emergency services or the military. We don’t accuse firefighters of being “toxic” for staying calm and composed under stress; we recognize that as a valuable trait.
Labeling these natural masculine qualities as “toxic” vilifies men for simply being men.
The problem arises when society ignores the positive sides of masculinity—courage, strength, leadership, and the willingness to protect others. Historically, these traits have been the backbone of not only America but civilizations worldwide. In pushing against “toxic masculinity,” we are subtly telling boys and men that their nature is flawed, which leads to confusion, self-doubt, and societal division.
This brings me to the real problem—the war on masculinity. Over the past few decades, there’s been a cultural shift that portrays traditional masculine traits as outdated, harmful, or even dangerous. Media often focuses on men behaving badly and frames those behaviors as representations of all men. This demonization of masculinity discourages young boys from developing strength, resilience, and a sense of purpose. Instead of teaching them to channel their innate drives productively, they are told to suppress them entirely.
Meanwhile, America is suffering from a void of strong men. We need men who are capable of taking responsibility, defending their families, and contributing positively to their communities. Look at the rising rates of fatherless homes, crime, and depression among young men.
These are symptoms of a society that has pushed men to the margins instead of fostering a healthy expression of masculinity. We don’t need less masculinity; we need more strong, responsible men who embrace their roles as leaders, protectors, and providers.
America was built on the shoulders of men who took risks, faced adversity, and did what needed to be done to secure freedom and prosperity. The strength of this country has always been tied to the strength of its men.
To demonize that is not only shortsighted—it’s dangerous. We need to nurture the qualities that make men strong and honorable, not tear them down. Strong men don’t just benefit themselves—they make society safer, more prosperous, and more just for everyone.
In closing, the idea of “toxic masculinity” is nothing more than a flawed concept that undermines the very essence of what makes men, and by extension society, strong. If we want America to thrive, we must celebrate masculinity, encourage men to embrace their strengths, and stop waging a cultural war against traits that have been foundational to our nation’s success.
Thank you for your time, and I look forward to hearing your thoughts.
By the way you can value men without thinking less of women. They are just as important just not the same as men. We need both.
Let’s Get It!
Zach Zenios, MS
Team Critical Bench
Licensed Neurosomatic Therapist
Registered Yoga Teacher, U.S. Marine
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